Exercise is a state of mind

Sit back and let me tell you a tale about one of the stupidest things I’ve ever done in my life.

Many moons ago, I was married to an extremely smart professor who lifted weights six days a week and rested on the Sabbath. I never felt the need to work out (weight lift), but he encouraged me to at least work out 2 days a week with him. One day for the upper body, and the second for the lower body. I didn’t feel my body was that out of shape, but I did give birth to two kids. Ladies, you can certainly relate to how our body changes to accommodate giving birth. But I digress, so back on to the story.

After a few months of working out with the smart professor, my body got firm in areas I wasn’t previously firm. I liked the look, the feel, and boy did it do wonders for my self-esteem. I could wear a mini skirt again! Back then, that was HOT!

One thing I didn’t like was being forced to work out. I had to do sit-ups before bed and in the morning. He’d comment on what I ate if he felt it wasn’t what I should be eating. You probably guessed by now, that he was a control freak. I don’t like the word freak, but it conveys what I need to get across in this tale.

We ended up getting a divorce for lots of reasons. I wished him well and left with two kids in tow. I was grateful for the tight thighs and feeling great about my body, which I owed all that to him and his control. BUT in my rebellion of not wanting to be controlled, I STOPPED working out from that point on! That was the stupidest thing I’ve ever done. So so wrong…

Fast forward fifteen years, here I am mid-fifties struggling to lose because it’s even harder at my age now! I get up at 5:45 am to get my butt to the gym and work out at least 3 times a week. BUT I LOVE to work out now. I FEEL so much better and have more energy than when I don’t work out. I notice a high feeling on the days I do work on my body. The only difference is – No one is forcing me now. I simply do it for myself and my own health.

I’m glad this tale has a happy ending, but I sure wish I could go back in time and change that stupid moment in time! (LOL) Life is a journey… ups and downs… good and bad.

Exercise is really a state of mind! It’s all in how you look at it.

Love and blessings – and here’s to our health.

Deanna

Beautiful Day

What a beautiful spring day! I feel the warmth of the sun coming through the sliding door, making me excited for the new season ahead.

tulips-bed-colorful-color-69776.jpegDo you look forward to the change of seasons? I know I do. For some reason, I feel its a new beginning for Mother Earth, the animals and all the new change about to happen. I feel that change is vital to growth and rebirth. I am constantly finding opportunities or things that give me growth in all areas of my life. I never want to remain stagnate – I feel that would be death for me.

Enjoy the new season upon us! See the growth and beauty in change. May you grow this season, in a big or small way, but grow!

 

Deanna

 

Living Life

Life on our own terms is more difficult than we imagine. We put masks on to various groups of people in our lives so we feel accepted, not judged. It’s a persona we wear so we are accepted, not left out or cast out, we feel a part of the ‘norm’. Acceptance is sometimes more important than being who we really are.

I went to see the movie “Love, Simon” last week. If you haven’t seen it, I’d recommend it. It’s about a teenage boy in high school who is living the “accepted” life but his deep dark secret is he is gay. He hasn’t told anyone for fear of being cast out, his life will be changed when he decides to live his true self. How terrible it would be living his life as what we deem “normal” as a society, but lying every day or burying his true self for his whole life? I can’t image what that would feel like! It makes me sick to even think about it. I’m so happy he didn’t, that this movie had a happy ending. I know it’s not like that for everyone, but finally a movie shows a positive outcome coming of age and being true to one’s self. Bravo!

One of the top regrets of those that are old, dying, and realizing their lives are about over, is they didn’t have the courage to live they life they wanted, but lived the life others wanted for them.

Be brave. Live your life the way you want, the truth of who you are without regret. There will be people who like you and ones that don’t no matter what mask you wear. So why not simply be who you truly are and find those people who like you. I bet you will live a happier life.

Deanna